How are you feeling? Are you tired, over it or anxious? Are you just living in a house or creating a home?
Do any of these words describe where you are at?
- all in
- burned out
- knocked out
- out of gas
- ready to drop
- sick and tired
- wiped out
- worn out
- dead tired
- done in
- fed up
- had it
I have been super blessed to be a Mum the last 13 years. That’s over a decade now, and still I see there are so many areas that need work! Over these years I have felt every word on the above list!! I have been a stay at home Mum with 2 who were 15.5 months apart. I have had a season of working full time as a teacher while still being a Mum. Now I am a stay at home mum again with teenagers and a toddler!
SO yes…..I have had the range of experiences in my time! I have been a youngish Mum and now I am in my 40’s! Even so…I still don’t have it together all the time but I feel as though I know what is important now.
Do you ever look at other Mums and think they have it all together? I know I have in the past but what i realise 13 years into this and the above words are still part of my world. We live in an imperfect world raising imperfect little humans!
We will never have it all together but we can certainly get better at BEING together. What I mean by this is I can’t give what I don’t have. I can’t give what is not in my heart already. What I give to my children is my BEING.
One of the greatest MOTHERHOOD lessons I have learnt…..
BEING – Patient – Kind – Loving – Gentle. I can’t give these things to my children unless I possess them. This little lesson is one of the greatest lessons I have learnt in the season of motherhood. I wish I had realised this sooner! I just thought I needed to BE perfect. NO! This is not it at all. Being perfect or wanting perfect children is desiring the outside to be on show to the world. Being patient, kind, loving and gentle are all matters of the heart.
I have got it wrong for so many years. It is the HEART that matters. It is not the outward appearance. Making my children look perfect and behave perfectly. Of course their behaviour is important but if I am more concerned about them being perfect – I am wanting to please PEOPLE. Are my children behaving out of the wealth within their hearts or is it just to perform and look perfect?
Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it. Proverbs 4:23
We need to guard our hearts for out of our hearts come our patience, kindness, love and gentleness. We need to cultivate our hearts before the Lord in out quiet times. When we are pressed what inside will be on display. No one is perfect but we can and must work on our BEING.
As part of my journey I am exploring how we can cultivate our hearts so we can enjoy motherhood and the joys this will bring. (I type this as my little one is having a wobbly) #momlife!